These are random notes that are getting my attention at the moment

The days are getting cold and so is my sense of enjoyment and hope for humanity. It seems to me that there are quite a few really selfish people in the world and what is depressing me about that is that the more selfish and hard line they are the better they seem to be placed or rewarded.

The observation arises form a few circumstances of negotiation that I have been directly involved in recently and some otehr observations from others like Wendy and Michael Bjork Billings where their interactions with others seem in a similar way to have been against a very hard line or demanding position taken by the person they were dealing with. The outcomes from these interactions seem inevitably that reason and fairness are wasted ideals and the importance of taking unreasonable and demanding positions is the most beneficial way to proceed.

This is an observation that maybe a learning point about being in the big bad world. You would have thought that I would have been fully aware of this by now but maybe i have been avoiding the reality of the evidence or maybe I have led a protected or blinkered perspective up to recently.

I wonder if it is all to do with my experiences with the legal tangles we have faced over the years to do with housing and inheritance. The outcomes there were unsatisfying or irritating or frustrating. There are probably stronger words that I should use here.

Even so the learning that is becoming evident to me but is difficult to accept is that bad attitudes always win against good or less repulsive attitudes. Therefore in employment and money areas the notion that there is a fairness test or any rights in natural justice is not evident. People who may get some result for themselves do so by being a pain and an making unreasonalble demands and then being hard line or extreme about those demands.

Is this the way of the world well yes it is you just have to be as unreasonably demanding and selfish as possible and them unrelenting in your attitude and definitely do not indicate at any stage that you are able to see the other sides point of view.

If you are reasonable or indicate a broader perspective that your own selfissh hard line, perhaps illogical and unreasoned position then you are weak and can be taken advantage of.

Strangely this probably is well understood by others who are selfish and unreasonable and used as the most beneficial approach in all dealings of importance with others at all times.

Do not let the bastards win at all costs - do not givve an inch and do not show any signs of reasonableness or that will be taken advantage or and you will have lost and this will continue and there will be no let up on this. IT is the strategy of bullies but you might ask why are their bullies - because being a bully is rewarded immediately in most circumstances. If a bully is called to task it will be over a single isolated incident that means other incidents are gotten away with and the single one may not be of consequence when put beside the others. SO stop being Mr nice guy. ":There is no act of kindness of such greatenes or worth that it remains unpunished"